Ridding Yourself of Tall Poppy Syndrome – Why You Should Be Nominating Yourself for An Award

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The advantages of being nominated for an award are obvious – the recognition for your work, the kudos, the PR opportunities, perhaps a little extra finance to undertake a project… so why then does it feel so awkward when it comes to nominating yourself for an award?

It’s an issue I’ve been discussing lately with a couple of clients. Both women in executive leadership roles. Confident, accomplished women, women who have worked extremely hard and deserve to be recognised for their huge steps in self-development and business triumphs. And who both shy away from the thought of nominating themselves as the ultimate in egotism.

But it’s not. It’s really not. Here’s my take on why you should be nominating yourself for an award and celebrating your own success.

Nobody is a Mind Reader.

No matter how good you are at your job, how amazing your achievements, and how widespread your success, you cannot rely on other people to recognise these for you. They’re not you, and although they can celebrate your accomplishments to a degree, they will never know the full story. Your full story.

Neither will they be likely to look at an award, look at you, and make the connection. It’s just not how our minds work. If you consider your business network, it’s likely you’ll know several people who all offer similar services – multiple graphic designers, family solicitors, accountants, and copywriters. Singling you out for nomination from the rest of those connections is quite a tall order.

It’s the Ultimate Act in Self-Belief.

It doesn’t matter how often you tell someone how good you are, they have to experience it for themselves. This is why social proof – reviews, testimonials, and case studies are so powerful – they allow potential clients to see what others are saying about you. An award is the same. It’s external validation that you are what you say.

But, unless we believe in ourselves, how can we expect others to believe in us? Nominating yourself for an award is another way of demonstrating that you are what you say you are, that you’re credible and believable. In the same way that you would write a post on social media perhaps detailing your experience, or add your previous positions to your LinkedIn profile, nominating yourself for an award is simply another means of gaining visibility.

You weren’t put on this earth to get lost In the weeds. Be the tall poppy you were born to be.”

Dawn Russell

Mind the Gap.

It’s not only a terrific way of celebrating your successes, but of identifying any weaknesses in your skills. Often that daunting nominations form can be a great gap analysis exercise in itself! That’s not to say that you should beat yourself up over any identified weak areas. The application is a useful exercise in selling yourself and getting your name out there.

Leave the Judging to the Experts

Not every award is going to have the perfect criteria for you, so don’t limit yourself to the awards that seem a perfect fit or wait until the “right time” to enter. (That’s just procrastination and perfectionism by another name!) Instead, grab every opportunity, throw caution to the wind, but, most of all, don’t second-guess your suitability for an award. That’s the job of the awards committee.

Nominating Yourself for An Award Field of red poppies with one standing taller than the rest

Stop Waiting for Permission.

Ask yourself why you are waiting for permission and from whom? It can be oh, so liberating, to take control of our lives, and nominating yourself for an award is the ultimate act of regaining control.

So, once you’ve nominated yourself for an award, what next?

Well, this is where you get to max the heck out of the PR opportunities that a nomination presents. Of course, you should shout about it on your socials. Don’t wait to be shortlisted, a finalist, or even a winner, announce your nomination as soon as you can. This gives you the maximum time to create content and gain exposure before the next stage of the awards process. Secondly, display an awards badge on your email footer, website, and print material – and backlink to the awards page, where possible.

Find as many ways as possible and angles from which to broadcast your nomination. Don’t think that talking about it once on social media is enough. If you’ve invested time in applying for an award and completing an application form, then you deserve to enjoy your moment.

Conclusion.

There really is no need to feel awkward about nominating yourself for an award. It’s just another means to visibility and a promotional opportunity for you and your business. Sure, it takes courage and exposing your own vulnerability, but instead of focusing on this, consider for a moment what is on the other side of your fear? Go on, nominate yourself – You deserve it!

If now is the time to invest in your business growth, there are a number of ways that we can work together.

1. With 1:1 coaching.  With monthly or weekly sessions available, we’ll work together to create a sustainable, resilient, and successful business, banish the overwhelm and create success on your terms. Find out more here

2. If you’re starting out or have a young business then my Startup to Success coaching programme is for you. You’ll learn all the steps to creating strong foundations upon which to grow your business. Click this link to discover more

3. For those “quick wins” my Coaching Power Hour is a must. You’ll receive actionable steps to help you move past your blocks, gain clarity, and gain the momentum to grow your business. Book your Power Hour here

 

Why you should bring your feminine qualities to work- 5 feminine qualities to embrace

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How would you describe a successful business person? You might use words like “strong,” “assertive” and “independent.” You might be less inclined to describe the traits of success as “intuition,” “flexibility” or “compassion.”

For many years, business success has been dominated by masculine energy. The focus has been on performance, achievement, and challenge, compared to softer feminine energy encompassing empathy, nurturing, and collaboration.

So, if you want to be a success in business, should you suppress these feminine qualities and instead focus on improving the masculine? Isn’t that what society expects?

Traditionally, maybe, but the world is a-changing, and many organisations are coming to value a combination of both masculine and feminine qualities in the workplace.

Before we start, let’s be clear. This is not about men versus women. We are all a curious mix of both energies; there are many men who embody feminine qualities, and plenty of women who embrace their masculine qualities. This is about recognising that anyone can harness their feminine energies and use them to get ahead in business.

So, what are the key feminine qualities that you can use to your advantage in business? Here are 5 to embrace:

  1. Intuition. Embracing and acting upon that “gut feeling,” rather than always opting for the logical and rational solution may open new choices and options, and yet we often block our intuition, feeling that the solution to any challenge must be more complicated than our inner voice is telling us. Listening to our intuition often gives clarity to a situation, by cancelling out the “ifs” and “buts” of the logical mind.

Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown out your own inner voice.

Steve Jobs

2. Empathy. An understanding of the deeper issues surrounding a situation gives you the ability to forge deeper connections with stakeholders, employees, and colleagues. People want to be “heard” as well as “understood” and for that to come from a place of authenticity; because you are genuinely interested and value them, rather than as some tick-box exercise.

Leadership is about empathy. It is about having the ability to relate to and connect with people for the purpose of inspiring and empowering ther lives.

Oprah Winfrey

3. Collaboration. Identify the right people to forge connections with and you’ll benefit from a team who will support you when you’re doubting yourself, provide you with different perspectives, and who all have different skillsets. Success rarely comes down to the actions of one person, but rather the collective efforts of several.

People who are truly strong lift others up. People who are truly powerful bring others together.

Michelle Obama

4. Vulnerability. Society has long conditioned us to eschew anything less than perfection in everything we do. But perfection does not exist. It often requires the input of others, which is out of our control, leading to feelings of inadequacy, discord, and frustration. In contrast, allowing our human frailties and vulnerability to be seen; admitting mistakes, recognising areas of weakness and opportunities for growth, roots our connection with others far deeper and allows others to appreciate our inner strength and resilience.

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.

Brene Brown

5. Humility. Culturally, we often see confidence as a mark of success. But the ability to recognise our own weaknesses, the contribution of others in our own success and to accept others’ viewpoints is a powerful trait and one that inspires the confidence of others in us and our abilities.

A true genius admits that he/she knows nothing

Albert Einstein

The key to a successful business is a combination of both the masculine and feminine qualities, of understanding the value that each trait brings to you as a business person and harnessing the power that emotional intelligence can bring. It’s about finding the balance between the two energies, so as to bring out the best in yourself and to inspire it in others. Your feminine qualities, those superpowers that you may have suppressed or ignored will set you up for the business world that is emerging post-Covid. Embrace them!

If now is the time to invest in your business growth, there are a number of ways that we can work together.

1. With 1:1 coaching.  With monthly or weekly sessions available, we’ll work together to create a sustainable, resilient, and successful business, banish the overwhelm and create success on your terms. Find out more here

2. If you’re starting out or have a young business then my Startup to Success coaching programme is for you. You’ll learn all the steps to creating strong foundations upon which to grow your business. Click this link to discover more

3. For those “quick wins” my Coaching Power Hour is a must. You’ll receive actionable steps to help you move past your blocks, gain clarity, and gain the momentum to grow your business. Book your Power Hour here