
One of the biggest frustrations of leadership is having an idea of your personal and organisational goals, but feeling “stuck”. Rooted to the status quo and not necessarily sure of why. Perhaps you have worked to improve your leadership mindset
but now find something is getting in the way.
Could this sticking point be down to your own self-sabotaging behaviour? Those limiting beliefs that we may not even be aware of, but that drive the possibilities we allow ourselves and which are a direct result of our belief system.
Often these beliefs are instilled in us in childhood, albeit unconsciously. Perhaps they come from familial, cultural or societal expectations; we know what is required of us and do our best to conform, but in so doing, create certain “rules” around our values, beliefs and, consequently, our behaviour.
However, what is common to all self-limiting beliefs is the fundamental, unconscious notion that we are just not good enough; we’re not capable of making the grade; and we are somehow lacking.
In this blog post, I’m going to highlight 7 common limiting beliefs that I often experience when coaching leaders and which severely impact their leadership mindset.
Developing a strong leadership mindset is dependent upon developing sufficient self-awareness of your behavioural and personality traits, the things that motivate you and those that trigger a stress response and being confident enough to be authentic in your values and actions.
It is therefore important to reflect on your brand of negative belief by looking at your past experiences. When was the last time you felt “less than” or “not good enough”? How did that manifest in your actions, and what emotions did that produce in you?
Similarly, when things don’t go to plan, and perfectionism isn’t achieved, we can catastrophise, telling ourselves that because one particular element failed, we are failures, and not cut out for our leadership role. But here’s the thing. Perfectionism does not exist. It relies on elements outside of our realm of control.
Instead, ask yourself what “good enough” looks like. Give yourself and others permission to make mistakes and focus on the big picture, instead of micro-managing those around you. This allows you to focus on driving the organisation strategically, rather than being bogged down in every small detail.
Not knowing is a pre-requisite of curiosity, leading us to explore options, and innovate. Leaders who are prepared to embrace innovation also tend to be the leaders who ask for feedback from others, and action it. They understand the power of diversity in perspective and healthy debate and ultimately are the leaders who demonstrate agility in adapting to change.
The good news is that whilst it can take commitment to move past any limiting beliefs and move into a more positive leadership mindset, it is within your grasp. Increased self-awareness can be transformational, and, once you move past these self-imposed limits, there is a whole vista of growth and opportunity waiting for you.
Of course, if you would like support in ridding yourself of any limiting beliefs, improving your self-awareness and improving your leadership mindset in general, then I am happy to help.
My executive coaching is available for you in 1:1 sessions, which are completely confidential and aimed at supporting you with any challenges you face in leadership and beyond. Book a call here to discuss how I can help.